Hey guys Today I am going to discuss a relationship that has affected one of my friends and her bad experience with an ingrate guy who according to her story pretty much just used her.
This is the Story of my friend Ari~
“no guy would take me seriously
"guys r pigs all they want is sex"-
my hopes n dreams were down the drain.
until one guy changed my life entirely
he spotted me during my senior year.
when we began tlkn to each other he used his words to to bring my hopes and dreams up.
he made me feel like im worth something.
and i fell in love w. him”
I agree that a guy uses his charm the first couple of days to make girls feel better but in my opinion this is just how they try to get in our pants.
We went out for only 2 weeks. but those two weeks were the most memorable.
after the two weeks he did not talk to me or call me anymore.
why did he act like this?
few days later he breaks up with me due to us "barely seeing each other"?
In two weeks I think things should not have gone this far but he acted as a prince and the princess Ari fell for his trap. My prediction to why he acted like this was he was a typical jerk who just wants his guy friends to think he got into your pants even though that bastard didn’t. His reputation as a player increased and to his friends this might have just given him popularity while he just played around with your feelings. This is the typical reaction to a guy who prefers to be a cool guy in front of his pals instead of becoming faithful to a loving relationship.
I was left heartbroken, confused, and lost.
went through deep depression.
not wantin to live no more actually crossed my mind... but didnt attempt anything.
I had this feeling deep in my heart that he would come bak one day.. it may take months or years.. but he'll come bak. and i devoted my entire self to wait for him.
I made a promise to my self that i would not go out or hang out w. no other guy thats not him. i even have a string tied to my wrist to remind me. Within my long wait for him, destiny hit me w. temptation.
This promise to herself was later challenged since the hottest/most popular skater in the area began talking to her… it came to the point that they even hanged out, but... was Ary breaking her promise to herself about not hanging out with any other guy? I do not think her promise meant much to him so really she was just learning to move on and if the guy did not appreciate her loyalty there was no reason for her to keep the promise going.
After 6 long months, my love decides to start talking to me again.
he promises that we'll get bak together.
months passed and that promise was not kept.
now we keep talking on and off.
This is more serious than having a fight and not talking. Because if it was at least a fight, then they would have a good reason y they were not tlkn to each other.
in my case i remain clueless why he stops talking to me.
Up to this day is how our relationship status is.
Wow by the looks of it this relationship is based on games he keeps playing with her feelings like the classic game of predator vs. prey. First the guy keeps an eye on you and attracts you then the retard thinks it is okay to bring your hopes up and eat you alive without any escape….until he finally devours the victim and the girl has no choice but to feel it is her fault he might ignore her… then after the guy turns out to be sorry and want her back.. When in reality the story will repeat until the girls self esteem and confidence does no longer exist.
I really love him and i wish i can express my feelings to him, but i dont wanna scare him off again.
one day he claimed that i went to his street to stalk him. when really i was just hanging out with my friends.
he posts up on myspace that i was stalking him, when hes referring to me. putting it out on public.!
this really upset me.
This is the typical coward… gosh ~Why the hell do guys think that they are so important that they must immediately inform their friends… Do they even have friends? The truth is if a guy posts these type of messages n myspace he has no life, if he really wanted his friends to know he would go tell them personally but rather this guy is the coward scared to say it to other faces in fear that they will make fun of him or even question….Myspace s a public space and what you put up can make or break someone…
I came to the point were i think i know why he acts that way with me.
after analyzing his life closely, it all makes sense.
He has a fear.
"I hold no grudge against him, despite all the different ways he's hurt me, verbally and mentally, deep inside i know that there’s another ____ inside him that is trapped due to his fear"
I stand to cure his fear and win his heart once again.
but.... is his love really worth all ary has sacrificed and has gone through for him?
what do you think?
Well guys this was My buddy Ari’s story and I know many girls and guys can relate to it that is why it is essential you give back feedback and your opinions to how she could deal with it or any advice you have to any one of them either ari or the coward guy.
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18 comments:
i know the guy shes talkin bout...
and i know his story.. and i aslo know her story...
and i believe the guy cuz i know he was saying the truth.. i personally saw her stalkin him...
hmmm r u sure u r not just siding for ure friend or do u think u would have done the same as ure friend... well regardless of the stalking does that give ure friend the right to publicly disrespect a girl on a public website?
then why was she postin on her status that she was goin to do this and that...and then all of the sudden she was outisde his house..amd she would txt him tellin him to come outiside? ?
i know with the girl or guy whose on the guys side. wouldnt you be postin on myspace that someone was stalkin you when they were stalking you?? cmon you would do it. and that girl ary needs to grow up
Dammm that's fuked up... I would say crazy but she needs to move on we've all gone thru a bad experience it goes to show that she needs to remind herself that never to take things fast.., like a friend of mine says guys just need to kno how to run there mouth and can have any grl... So true!! Shed very pretty and worth so much more than drama... Life goes on and tell her to let this bee a lesson 4 her to learn from
A point she made is he has fear...which could be correct. But u could also realize he did not want to caught. Look at it closely if a guy talks to u off and on he is also talking to sum one else. But wen he realized u started to talk to sum one else he got jealous. Typical for a guy to a jealous when he feels he is losing sum thing he feels he owns. Although he either made himself look cool by saying she is stalking him or she really did it. It doesnt matter if it did happen but he made himself look like he owns u and u miss him. And u need him more than he needs u, this is gonna let him not only look cool to guys but girls 2. Dont be surprised 2 c him with a girl soon. Ary should grow and realize he isnt the guy 4 her and move on their is plenty of fish in the sea as they say. Yea he is a Jerk but not all guys are like that. Im one who truly avoids being a jerk. I do admit i have had plenty of acts of stupidity in the past but i have learned, moved on, and grown up, such should u should. Good Luck and i hope all goes well
hey Everyone this is Ary,
i just want to clear up with everyone the whole "stalking" situation.. u guys might want to know the whole story...
I was hanging out w. my bff close by his house... yess i was txtn him.. and yes i did ask him if he was home.. because me and my friend were going to go down the street anyways because me and his friend were heading to Rally's. he told me he wasnt home.. so i was like o.k whateverrr.. but we still walked down his blok to get to Rally's. Once we came across his house we were tired of walking so much... we had walked like 7 blocks.. so my bff decided we should sit down right there in the curve across the street from his house... i didnt really see the harm since "he was not home"...well we were still texting and i happen to bring up that me and my friend were just sitting down chilling at his street.. at the end it turned out he was home this whole time!!! how was i suppose to know he was home... after that me and my bff just left to RAlly's..
this is what really happened.. and the truth behind the stalking because no one seems to know what really happened... and to b honest not even he knows this story... he just assumed i was stalking him.. if he is reading this right now... just know this is what really happened.. and if u still think i was stalking u... welll alll i can say is im sorry :/
well i think ary needes to realized that he is using her.. cuz he only talks to her here and there.. i think the only way she will realized this is to see him w/ another girl.. also ary there are many and plently of fish in the sea.. i hope u realized this before its too late for u.. i hope u find another person that is much better than him.. take care
WEll as the one writing these blogs, i feel Ary its time to move on ad if a guy is willing to embarrass a girl on a public site, this just means he is not only a jerk but not a gentleman. If he were a real gentleman he would never make something this personal public and he basically forced her to want to let it all out through my site. KEep commenting since Ary will learn from all comments and if THIS JERK is reading this, well mister hope ure conscience is getting to you cuz if its not u r most definately one of the few people that will never learn to be happy without using others for their own pleasure.
i think this is all just for attention!
she just wants ppl to feel sry for her!
yes yes!!!! she just wants ppl to feel srry for her....!!!!!
i dont think its all attention i think her story is just here so other people can help her get over it or to give help to other people who hae faced the same ciscumstances DUH!
WTF if a guy says they what that hell no and u girls r right and not i am not a girl i am a dud & i went 2 that stage already and she is the fighter in this 1.and besides what is a girl fighting 4... what i think is that if a guy is bad and dose not want any1 2 here the true he calls people 2 back him up.^_^ funny...o i 4 got 1 more thing if a girl wants peole 2 feel sorry 4 her it wont be like this they will be doing something else beleive me i went through that already ok ^_^
ops i miss a word i ment 2 say girls r right and i am not a girl HEHEHE^_^ sorry -_- y can boys be freaken nice dam man
shit happens get over it :D
happens to anyoneee! trust
I think the guy needs to learn his lesson!!
one day a girl will break his heart and then he will see how this girl ari felt...
its something called Karma
and i do not think this story was put up to make people feel sorry for her..
i think she was tired of having her feelings bottled up...
i feel her
good luck to that girl
Karma is a bitch i agree, jut leave the guy by himself he is immature
to all the people that say she was posting this to get attention get a life morons. anyways I found this helpful I also went through the same thing and is not kool at all when i was finally getting over the guy he started to txt me again i was like what the hell. now he has a gf and i think this is helping me really move on so don't worry u will move on 2 and find some1 better who will not treat u like he did =)
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